Questions we get by email.

Probably for about five minutes, yes. Most couples who write to us say the first night involved some laughing and a fair amount of adjusting.

What they also say is that the laughing helped. A new object in the bed gives you something to talk about that is not the thing you have been avoiding talking about. It moves the conversation from “what happened to us” to “wait, turn it the other way.”

Several women have told us they skipped the conversation entirely and let the box do the talking. It arrives, it goes on the bed, and the question becomes “what is this” instead of “we need to talk.”

If you would rather say something first, the version that seems to land is the physical one. My back hurts and I want to try something. That is true, it is not an accusation, and it is very hard to argue with.

Then you send it back and you are out nothing. That is what the 90 nights are for, and we mean used, washed, and slept on.

We would rather you find out in your own bed than talk yourself into it or out of it from a product page.

Most of the people who write to us are in their forties and fifties, and a good number are past that. The pillow does not care how old you are. It cares how long your muscles can hold a position before they start filing complaints — and that is exactly the problem it removes.

If anything, the longer you have been together, the faster the first night stops being a product test and starts being a Tuesday.

Deep Lift Pro. It sits taller, supports 265+ lbs, and gives the deeper angle most couples buy this for. Gentle Lift is the lower, softer version — for her under 125 lbs, or a first wedge.

Same pillow, same cover fabric, same everything. Pick whichever disappears into your bedding — charcoal hides more, dove grey reads softer in daylight. Most couples take the charcoal.

Firm enough that it does not fold under two adults, soft enough that it does not feel like a wedge of plywood under a sheet. The core is high-density foam rather than the shredded fill you find in cheap positioning pillows, which is the part that collapses.

If it loses its shape inside a year, write to us and we will replace it.

The cover is a soft heathered mélange knit (100% polyester) with a full-length zip — off in about ten seconds, machine wash cold, no dryer. The core is high-density memory foam with a slow rebound; it stays out of the machine and only ever needs a spot-clean.

Wash the cover as often as you like. That is what it is for.

22 × 14 × 11 in (57 × 36 × 27 cm) — about the footprint of a standard pillow, taller. It weighs 3.7 lb, sits on a queen without crowding anyone, and stores flat side down in a wardrobe or under the bed when it is off duty.

No. The underside is silicone-gripped, and we tested it against fitted cotton and jersey sheets — the two surfaces beds actually have. It stays where you put it, which is rather the point.

It is our name for what happens when the pillow holds your hips at one angle: the muscles that were quietly working the whole time — thighs, lower back, arms — get to stand down. You will know it the first night, because you can feel your own body stop bracing. It is a statement you can verify in your own bed, which is why we put a name on it.

Vacuum-compressed in a plain brown box with a shipping label and nothing else. No brand name, no product name, no window. It expands to full size in a few hours out of the bag. It ships within 2 business days and usually arrives in 7-12 business days, tracked, at no charge.

It ships within 2 business days and usually arrives in 7-12 business days, tracked and free anywhere in the US. You get the tracking number by email the moment it leaves. The Sunday Rule arrives by email within minutes of your order, so the wait is not empty-handed.

One short line: SP Amoret. No product name, no hint of what is in the box — the statement is as plain as the shipping box.

A 41-page book that comes with every pillow, about keeping one evening a week that belongs to the two of you. No exercises, no homework — one rule and the case for keeping it. It is emailed within minutes of your order and yours to keep either way.

You sleep on it, you wash it, you live with it. If inside 90 nights the two of you decide it is not for you, email us and we send a prepaid label — return shipping is on us, anywhere in the US, and the refund goes back to your original payment method. Used, washed, and slept on all count. We would rather you find out in your own bed than from a product page.

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